No legacy left behind

たそがれてゆく子さん

"I went through a happy menopause in my fifties, but now in my sixties, I feel like my life is fading. Growing old is so lonely."
This book is a record of the author's life events after she turned 60. She uses a diary-like and approachable style to calmly narrate the life and death and aging experiences she has experienced.
The mother passed away after being hospitalized for four years. When sorting out her belongings, the author sighed, "Seeing off one's parents is an inevitable process in life, just like puberty." He found that his mother only had a few things, so he also hoped to die like his mother, leaving nothing behind.
The husband aged rapidly, from being admitted to the emergency room to his death. The author took care of her husband while handling various chores, writing and taking care of the puppy. The book also records the boundless loneliness of aging and the inconvenience of living alone that she felt after her husband's death, as well as the freedom to live her own life.
The author did not give up on himself because of aging, but worked hard to cultivate his own interests and hobbies, such as Zumba, raising dogs, cooking, and writing, to make his life fulfilling and interesting.
"Everyone will die one day, there's nothing we can do about it. But I can't bear to die. If I die without leaving anything behind, it would be very open-minded and neat." The author faces aging, death, and farewell alone, step by step into loneliness, but she has never forgotten who she is. She is no longer afraid of loneliness and lives a brilliant life of her own.
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1. "Amenorrhea" by Ito Hirumi, a life battle song about a person's fight against loneliness and aging.
This book is a record of the author's life events after she turned 60. In a diary-like and easy-to-understand style, she records the death and farewell a person faces, and fights against loneliness and aging.
2. "Everyone will die eventually, there's nothing we can do about it. But I can't bear to let him die. If I die without leaving anything behind, it would be truly open-minded and neat."
3. We will grow old, feel lonely and be alone, but that is actually not such a scary thing. You can still have an ordinary and happy life.
With her parents gone, her daughters gone, and her husband dead, the author faces aging, death, and farewells alone, stepping into loneliness step by step, but she never forgets who she is. She is no longer afraid of loneliness and lives a brilliant life of her own.
4. There are sad times, and there will naturally be happy times.
Facing aging, facing the continuous farewells and loneliness of her daughter growing up and leaving home, her husband leaving, and her pets passing away, she also felt empty and melancholy. However, she did not lose heart and began to embrace new changes in her life.
She traveled, met with friends, and was invited back to Japan to give lectures at Waseda University, and her mood gradually improved.
5. An open-minded and calm outlook on life and death, and a calm narration of experiences of separation, death and aging.
Life is a process of continuous fading. Everyone will age, and on this long road to aging, we have to face issues such as death and loneliness, just like we have to face further education in the process of growing up.

2024-06-01

湖南文艺出版社

Bo Ji Tian Juan

280

9787572617294