old girl

📣I want to be happy, no need to be "normal"!
📣Frank words from women aged 40+ × A guide to avoiding the pitfalls of single life 📣A candid speech from an older single "useless" woman from Free France 📣I want to sing and break through the formation in my messy life 📣Mao Jian, professor and writer at East China Normal University × Pei Yuxin, associate professor at Sun Yat-sen University × Hua Zhao, planning editor of "So Not Angry" Sincerely recommend

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【Editor's Recommendation】
⭐I want to be happy, no need to be "normal"!
Recording the entanglement, inner consumption and self-reconciliation of an old girl, it presents all aspects of the life of contemporary single women in three dimensions, and explores multiple topics such as women's privacy, rights, finances, fertility, emotions, desires, etc.
"I chose to stop waiting for love in order to reclaim myself. I wanted to reclaim my body, my brain, and my time."
"We can choose not to check the question that our teacher told us we must answer in life."
In other words, I am honest, brave, and well-read, so what is there to be pitiful about me?
⭐Frank words from women aged 40+ × A guide to avoiding the pitfalls of single life, a candid speech from older single "useless" women in Free France. You wouldn't have thought that being a single woman in France is just as stressful. After all, if you're older, single, laid off, can't afford a house, and are a woman, it's unlikely to be easy anywhere. However, these keywords can also be written as: rich intellect, ample time, free ideals, and priceless sensibility. And when it comes to how to relax and implement relaxation, French women are indeed worth learning from -
"Because when you're broken into pieces, the good thing is that you can rebuild everything you own. And it doesn't necessarily have to be according to the instructions."
“Let us not think of love as a more or less conscious economic investment, in which we inevitably feel cheated. Let us think of love as love, and that is all.”
⭐ New translator Ma Ya x renowned designer Pei Lei Si presents this playful and playful hardcover book, designed to bring you up to speed. New translator Ma Ya's first translation, "Manufacturing Consumers: A Global History of Consumerism," was ranked in Douban's top 3 Business and Management books of 2022. Her writing style is effortlessly refined, refreshing, and fluent, imbuing "Old Girl" with wit and warmth. This time, she wants to tell readers: "After translating "Old Girl," I still fear aging. However, it would be wonderful if I could make friends in the nursing home and play board games together!"
Carefully crafted by the well-known designer Pei Leisi, the romantic illustrations interpret a different kind of French relaxation, the pink and blue color contrast is clever and interesting + portable hardcover small format + no waistband or cover + special paper printed cover, simple but not simplistic, exquisite but not pretentious, suitable for both reading and collecting.
⭐Goodreads 4.02 / Amazon 4.20: "This book is powerful from beginning to end... It would be a shame if I missed it."
📝Influenced by some of the reviews, I hesitated for a long time before deciding to buy this book, but I was so glad I finally finished it! This book is powerful from beginning to end, both exciting and poetic, sometimes funny and sometimes sad... It would be a shame if I missed it.
—Amazon Reader📝This is a rare book that pays tribute to single women, written by a single, childless woman. Books about singleness and non-motherhood are often written by married women with two or three children, in a (reassuringly) slightly provocative style. This book, on the other hand, is confident, joyful, and optimistic, drawing heavily on historical evidence to support its arguments. It prompts the question: Is it really worth the experience of legal marriage or cohabitation, or becoming a mother, putting yourself in chains, and raising children who may forget to repay you in your old age? However, the book's one weakness is the second section, which turns to personal accounts. The author recounts a loss, a case of professional burnout, and some tentative psychological explanations, which slightly weaken her argument. Nevertheless, this minor flaw does not detract from the book's overall value. As Simone de Beauvoir wrote, "I will be my own cause and my own end." This book is definitely worth reading.
——Goodreads readers⭐ The book comes with a "She Says·Joyful Movement" lifestyle manual, which contains more than 30 golden sentences + creative design + free doodles, allowing you to have fun reading freely. I have carefully selected more than 30 golden sentences, each of which is carefully selected and touches the heart.
Comprehensive and fun design + free graffiti space + DIY cover image + 60P full-color printing, fun reading, defined by you. Your "She Said" is absolutely unique.
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【Content Introduction】
A 43-year-old woman, laid off from her beloved magazine and left without a partner or children, leaves Paris for Marseille. She experiences the ups and downs of love, from obsession to withdrawal, and contemplates her own lifestyle as an older woman. She strives to achieve financial independence, purchasing a "room of her own," while also facing societal prejudices against older women, such as being seen as parasites, frigid, and selfish. Yet, she perseveres in her choices, exploring the true meaning of love, life, and self-awareness. "Older Women: Another Way of Life" is a true record of her unique life journey.
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【Experts and media recommendations】
In an era of feminist books aplenty, this author recounts her experiences and reflections with unpretentiousness, producing a book that is both emotional and profound, and one that is irresistible from the first page.
—Li Junpeng (Professor at the School of Social Sciences, Central China Normal University, and Editor-in-Chief of International Sociological Reviews)
A timely work. Today, we have works that rehabilitate "taboo" emotions for women, highlight women's unpaid domestic labor, and expose the invisibility of women in science and medicine. But few explore single women, especially middle-aged single women. "Old Girl" breaks this silence. This short book reveals that a woman's singleness isn't necessarily due to trauma, frigidity, or lesbianism; it can also be a matter of her own choice. To paraphrase Mary Cock, "I just don't have a partner or marriage, that's all." Let's remove the shackles that force girls into relationships. The world is already so violent, we can't stop being self-critical and becoming our own tyrants. Singleness is simply about "reclaiming oneself," about "taking back one's body, mind, and time."
——Hua Zhao, planning editor of "So Angry" This is a shocking essay that mixes autobiography and investigation.
——Le Figaro, a French women's bimonthly magazine
The old girl is no longer what she once was. No longer the doomed woman who couldn't find love, she is now liberated, eager, and captivating, taking charge of her own life outside the constraints of marriage and motherhood. Drawing on her own experiences as a single, childless woman in her forties, Mary Cock offers a rich, original, and often humorous reflection, drawing on examples from history, literature, and film—from medieval nuns to the wily Isabelle Huppert in François Ozon's "The Eight Beauties" to Balzac's Cousin Bette. It's not a manifesto, but a proposal for how to live a fulfilling single life.
—Julie Dufour, Libération, France
She demonstrates, in a sensitive and convincing way, that what women lack most is time and the freedom that comes with it. To become an old girl requires at least the courage to not confine oneself to idealized and servile frameworks (such as couples and families), and to say no to the obvious and traditional customs. This is a new way of life.
—Cécile Daumas, Libération
As a new generation re-examines traditional family structures, this deeply personal essay demonstrates that it's possible to live a normal and fulfilling life without being in a relationship.
—Jean-Laurent Cassely, French news weekly L'Express
Weaving together fragments of autobiography (which can be painful), readings of the humanities, and scenes plucked from literature or film, Mary Coker writes like an offensive: slowly building up her ammunition, then suddenly swooping down on a stereotype, bombarding it with gathered evidence and witty wit. Whether you agree with it or not, it's a delight!
—Eric Aeschimann, French news weekly L'Obscurité
"Old girls" have a bad rap. In a bold essay, Mary Coke brilliantly redresses them.
—Marie Fouquet, French magazine LH Le Mag
The old girl failed to fulfill her role as a woman—not to bear children, not to be anyone's wife—and yet possessed an inheritance that would never be passed down. This was unacceptable to the liberal society that had been burgeoning since the 19th century, and the inheritance game had been shaping the coming capitalist society ever since. Equally unacceptable was the idea that a woman without a man was a woman without value. Yet, beneath each anecdote in the book lies the author's astonishingly rich inner world. Her free time forced her to contemplate the meaning of existence, allowing her to accumulate diverse experiences, learn to understand and listen to herself, and achieve a rare tranquility, the kind that comes with being alone. As the author puts it, stopping the search for a man was not only "a revelation," but also the beginning of a search for herself, a reflection on what she loves and the path she wants to take.
—Emma Poesy, French independent cultural media Maze

2025-01-01

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