Marriage is up to me

Unmarried ですが、それが何か! ?

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You can get married or not. You can have children or not.

A woman's worth in life does not depend on this.

Whether in China or Japan, the number of "single people" is increasing.

So what if you don’t get married?

——Chizuko Ueno sent to Chinese readers

As a woman, the final piece of the puzzle is a child. Without this piece, Japan will never recognize you as a complete woman. This is also the discrimination I, as a "loser," have always faced.

——Chizuko Ueno

If I exist in a hundred parallel universes, in eighty of them I would not choose to get married, and in ninety-nine of them I would not have children.

——Water without fields and airflow

Chizuko Ueno, after years of witnessing her parents' discord, her mother's silent endurance for the sake of her child, and the long-standing discrimination against women in society, had a thought: "If I end up living this kind of life myself, it would be too much of a shame."

Mizunota, having become a mother by mistake, struggled mightily with the battle of parenting. She worked longer hours than her husband, yet single-handedly shouldered the entire household management. To keep the family running smoothly, Mizunota had to gradually persuade her husband, seeking his help and understanding. She often felt uneasy, "Will all this make it harder for all women to work?"

Two sociologists, almost mother and daughter in age, discuss the plight and rights of women. From slumber to awakening, how can we escape the suffering of being a woman?

★Specially customized postcards from Chizuko Ueno sent to Chinese readers.

★Following "Misogyny" and "Beginning with the Limit", Chizuko Ueno has another blockbuster new work!

★Moving towards a society where people can freely choose not to marry, get married, or have children!

"There are certainly reasons for not getting married. Conversely, I'd like to hear from those who choose to marry and have children: what are their reasons? Because everyone does it? Because it's natural? Or because it's something everyone must experience? If we strip away the factors of custom and norm, how many people would choose to marry and have children?"

Whether it is marriage or having children, it is a personal choice for every independent man and woman. People do not marry and have children for anyone other than themselves.

★Well-known feminist scholar × sociologist who "mistakenly" became a mother: We are fighting a desperate battle with "how to escape the suffering of being a woman", paying the price while building feminism.

"This society is not so much about 'discriminating against women' as it is about 'favoring men'."

Mothers will not choose to let their daughters become part of the organization because they themselves have experience as female white-collar workers and have seen too much of how women are treated in organizations, so much so that they want to vomit.

★Uncover the "invisible gender exploitation" behind the workplace, housework, and childcare.

★My parents, my husband, and my children don’t understand my life at all, so how could they understand everything I will experience in marriage?

2023-09-01

湖南文艺出版社

Bo Ji Tian Juan

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9787572612886