Our inner conflicts

★ Su Qin strongly recommends this book, a psychological self-help book written by an internationally renowned psychoanalyst for every ordinary person. It deeply reveals the contradictory and complex psychological truths, allowing you to identify yourself and feel a chill down your spine, so that you can rebuild your self-confidence in life and live a complete, mature and inner-peaceful life!
★ This is an extremely popular, influential and very easy-to-understand psychological self-help book by internationally renowned psychologist Karen Horney.
★ How do we deal with the loneliness, loss, madness and love in our hearts? Understand the psychology of inner conflicts and rebuild confidence in life.
Horney's research and classification of modern people's inner conflicts in this book covers all personality types, allowing people of all classes, ages, and professions to find the answers they seek. Importantly, she not only helps you analyze problems from a psychological perspective and gain a clearer understanding of yourself, but also proposes effective psychotherapy methods.

Do you really like someone, or do you just think you like them because you think you should like them?
When you see a loved one pass away, do you truly feel sad, or is it just a habitual way of expressing condolences?
Is there a certain kind of person you truly want to be, or is it just that kind of person who is respected and well-paid?
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This book argues that, deeply influenced by our life circumstances, we constantly work against the person we want to be, creating these inner conflicts that dominate our lives. To resolve these conflicts, we not only delude ourselves by creating various "idealized images" and externalizing the responsibility onto others, but also develop a variety of defense strategies based on different personality tendencies: those who are submissive choose to get close to others, those who are confrontational choose to resist others, and those who are alienated choose to distance themselves from others. However, these strategies are more like sophisticated compensation and avoidance. Rather than eliminating conflict, they instead lead us to feel deep fear, anxiety, and despair, unable to truly engage in any relationship or work, feeling that everything is set in stone and will never get better, and we are sinking deeper and deeper into a downward spiral.
Karen Horney, a leading figure in neo-Freudianism, believed that everyone has a desire to grow and constantly strive to become a better person. Therefore, she believed that conflicts can be truly resolved by changing the conditions that give rise to them. This book addresses the problems we encounter when plagued by inner conflict and offers practical methods for resolving them. It helps us learn to cope with inner loneliness, madness, loss, and love, achieving inner wholeness, maturity, and peace, rebuilding our confidence in life, and living more courageously and healthily.

2016-12-01

长江文艺出版社

Times Chinese International

288

9787535491657